Conversational Icebreakers
Meeting
someone thru sports: The gym, tennis court, golf course, lake, swimming
pool, bowling alley, jogging lane, horseback riding, auto races,
horse track, running, etc.
The
advantage is that both parties already know they have something
in common. The disadvantage is that people engage in sports often
to unwind and get away from people. If you approach the first time
they have seen you there, you will probably get shot down.
A
simple greeting the first few times may be enough and then extend
the conversation every so slightly each time. Of course, if they
show no interest in talking to you, don't be a boob and keep bothering
them. They will spread the word about you and you will be dead meat
at that location forevermore.
Meeting
someone in a group at public events. A safe avenue of future contact.
In fact, most young people do not initially date anymore; they just
meet someone, usually in the company of others. Small groups of
people meet at various places and some eventually pair off.
This has been going on forever, but this trend is more common now
than it has even been in the past. Besides being safer, this phenomenon
is very comfortable and effective because the group itself becomes
the icebreaker.
Date
in pairs or in small groups: This is an extension of meeting in
small groups. This phenomenon is also very old and used to be referred
to as double dating. At the early dating stage, this is very reassuring
and it still works.
An offer of an informal first date within a small group has a lower
chance of rejection than a romantic dinner at an expensive restaurant.
The latter is very serious for the initial stage of dating and runs
the risk of too many mistakes and mutual embarrassment.
Friend
to friend contacts: Many dates are actually arranged via the grapevine.
Someone who knows someone who knows someone makes a referral or
gives a reference shares a phone number or even makes the arrangements.
Women tend to use this method more than men probably because females
are by nature more cooperative; whereas, men are more competitive
and therefore more reluctant to share contacts.
It is also a known fact (so prove us wrong) that males who have
more lady friends tend to get more dates than males who have fewer
non-romantic lady friends. So, let your friends be your guide. They
may not always choose right, but you will get you more dates.
Dating
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